How you reach for closeness, and what you do when it scares you
About this assessment
A full-length, 40-item attachment-style assessment inspired by the two-dimensional Experiences in Close Relationships model (Brennan, Clark & Shaver; Fraley). It measures two independent dimensions — Attachment Anxiety (fear of abandonment, hypervigilance to rejection, protest behavior, reassurance-seeking) and Attachment Avoidance (discomfort with closeness and dependence, compulsive self-reliance, emotional suppression) — and locates you in one of four styles: Secure, Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissing-Avoidant, or Fearful-Avoidant. Items are original, behaviorally specific snapshots of real relationship moments, with reverse-keyed items in both dimensions to catch agree-everything responding. For education and self-reflection only — not a clinical diagnosis.
Your result breaks down across 2 measured dimensions
Attachment AnxietyAttachment Avoidance
This assessment includes built-in validity checks. Your result includes a confidence rating based on response consistency.
About the Attachment Style Assessment
A full-length, 40-item attachment-style assessment inspired by the two-dimensional Experiences in Close Relationships model (Brennan, Clark & Shaver; Fraley). It measures two independent dimensions — Attachment Anxiety (fear of abandonment, hypervigilance to rejection, protest behavior, reassurance-seeking) and Attachment Avoidance (discomfort with closeness and dependence, compulsive self-reliance, emotional suppression) — and locates you in one of four styles: Secure, Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissing-Avoidant, or Fearful-Avoidant. Items are original, behaviorally specific snapshots of real relationship moments, with reverse-keyed items in both dimensions to catch agree-everything responding. For education and self-reflection only — not a clinical diagnosis.
What this test measures
Your result is broken down across 2 distinct dimensions rather than collapsing everything into a single number. Each dimension is scored from its own set of items, so you can see which specific pattern is driving your overall result.
Attachment Anxiety — measured across 20 items.
Attachment Avoidance — measured across 20 items.
How to read your result
Scores fall into one of 4 interpretive bands. Here is what each one means, what tends to sit underneath it, and what usually helps.
Secure
You land low on both anxiety and avoidance. You can get close without losing yourself and ask for help without bracing for rejection. Closeness feels like a resource rather than a threat, and after a fight you can repair instead of spiraling or shutting down. A late reply is a late reply, not a verdict.
What it suggests Your nervous system treats relationships as a safe base: you tend to assume good intent, repair after a rupture, and hold both intimacy and independence at the same time. This doesn't mean you never feel insecure — it means insecurity is passing weather, not the climate. You likely steady more anxious or avoidant partners just by staying calm, consistent, and direct.
What helps Protect this by naming needs early, before they curdle into resentment. When you date someone more anxious or avoidant, resist getting pulled into their pattern — keep modeling the calm, direct repair that comes naturally to you. Use your security to ask the harder questions other people tend to dodge, and to stay in the room when a partner's fear flares.
Anxious-Preoccupied
Higher on anxiety, lower on avoidance. You crave closeness and give generously, but a fear of being left runs under much of it. Small cues — a delayed reply, a flat tone, a cancelled plan — can hijack your sense of safety and pull you toward reassurance-seeking, score-keeping, or protest behavior like chasing or going cold to be noticed.
What it suggests Your system is tuned to catch the earliest hint of disconnection, so you often detect threats that aren't there and react to the story before the facts arrive. Reassurance soothes you, but rarely for long, because the alarm is internal, not external. Testing, over-giving, and over-analyzing are all bids for a security you're afraid to simply assume you already have.
What helps When fear spikes, pause and ask: what do I actually know versus what am I imagining? Give yourself twenty minutes before sending the anxious text. Build self-soothing skills so a partner isn't your only off-switch, and name your pattern to them directly so reassurance becomes a tool, not a trap. Choosing a secure partner over an avoidant one will change your life faster than any single technique.
Dismissing-Avoidant
Higher on avoidance, lower on anxiety. You prize independence and competence, and past a certain depth intimacy starts to feel like pressure. You handle things alone, keep a private inner room locked, talk down how much people matter to you, and may not notice you've pulled away until someone names it.
What it suggests Somewhere you learned that needing others is risky or disappointing, so self-reliance became your safety. The cost is that you deactivate closeness exactly when a partner reaches for it — going quiet, finding flaws, fixing instead of feeling, or emotionally leaving the room. You may read your own discomfort as 'they're too much' rather than 'I'm pulling away.'
What helps Catch the deactivation in real time: when you feel the urge to withdraw, criticize, or solve, treat it as data about your fear, not a verdict about your partner. Practice staying in one uncomfortable conversation ten minutes past what feels natural, and voice one small need each week. Letting someone into the locked room on purpose, in small safe doses, is how the wiring slowly updates.
Fearful-Avoidant
High on both anxiety and avoidance. You want closeness and fear it at once, so love can feel like a push-pull: you pursue when there's distance, then retreat when it gets close. The same person can feel like your safest place and your biggest threat within the same week.
What it suggests This pattern often traces to early bonds where the source of comfort was also a source of hurt, leaving you without a single clear strategy — so you swing between both. The intensity is real and exhausting: you long to be fully seen, then panic and armor up once you are. It's the most internally contradictory style, and also one that responds powerfully to steadiness and safety.
What helps Name the push-pull out loud to people you trust, so it becomes a shared pattern to navigate rather than a secret you act out. When you feel the urge to flee a good connection, slow down and check whether the danger is present-day or an old echo. This style benefits most from predictable, patient relationships and, where possible, working with a therapist — earned security is genuinely reachable, and your capacity for depth becomes a strength once the fear settles.
How this test is scored
Attachment Style Assessment contains 40 items and takes about 9 minutes. Responses are combined using a subscale weighted method across the dimensions listed above, then mapped to the interpretive bands above. Your percentile is an interim estimate that sharpens as more people take the test, and is labelled as provisional in your result.
This assessment also includes hidden validity items that detect inattentive or socially-desirable answering. When they trigger, your result carries a lowered confidence rating and we tell you — rather than presenting a skewed score as fact.
The test ships in 10 parallel forms that rotate between takes, so repeat visitors do not simply memorise the same items.
Limits of this assessment
This is an educational, self-reflective assessment — not a diagnosis. A questionnaire can describe a pattern and point you toward language for it, but it cannot account for your history, context, or circumstances, and it is not a substitute for evaluation by a qualified professional. If a result concerns you, treat it as a reason to talk to someone rather than as a verdict.
Your answers are scored on your device. Taking this test requires no account, no email address, and no payment, and your full result — every band, every dimension — is shown to you immediately and in full.