Should I Stay or Leave?
An honest read on what is actually keeping you in this relationship
About this assessment
A 34-item relationship reflection inspired by Caryl Rusbult's Investment Model of commitment, which holds that whether people stay is shaped by three forces — how satisfied they feel, how poor or rich their alternatives look, and how much they have already invested — plus a fourth dimension this version tracks closely: respect and emotional safety. Items are deliberately concrete and anchored to real moments rather than abstract feelings, so the result reflects how your relationship actually runs day to day, not how you wish it looked or fear it might be. The aim is to separate the reasons you want to be here from the reasons you feel you cannot leave. This is an educational tool for self-reflection, not a diagnosis, a verdict, or advice to stay or go — only you can make that decision, ideally with people who know your full situation. If any item raises concern about your safety, please reach out to a domestic violence hotline or a trusted professional.
Your result breaks down across 4 measured dimensions
This assessment includes built-in validity checks. Your result includes a confidence rating based on response consistency.