Relationship~8 min · 30 questions

Conflict Style & Communication Playbook

The move you actually reach for the moment a disagreement gets real

About this assessment

An original 30-item conflict-style assessment inspired by Thomas-Kilmann conflict-mode theory, which maps how you handle disagreement along two axes: assertiveness (how hard you pursue your own concerns) and cooperativeness (how much you attend to the other person's). Their intersection defines five modes — Competing, Collaborating, Compromising, Avoiding, and Accommodating. Instead of asking how you'd like to think you behave, every item drops you into a concrete, slightly uncomfortable moment — the second a plan gets challenged, the silence after you've been overruled, the text you draft and delete — and asks what you actually do. Reverse-keyed items in every mode guard against simply agreeing with everything. The result surfaces your go-to move, the modes you under-use, and where your default helps versus quietly costs you. Educational and reflective only; it is not therapy, relationship advice, or a clinical evaluation.

Your result breaks down across 5 measured dimensions

Competing (Assertive / Uncooperative)Collaborating (Assertive / Cooperative)Compromising (Intermediate)Avoiding (Unassertive / Uncooperative)Accommodating (Unassertive / Cooperative)

This assessment includes built-in validity checks. Your result includes a confidence rating based on response consistency.

Conflict Style & Communication Playbook — PsychIQ